I want to buy my girlfriend a sex toy for our anniversary (something we can both enjoy). We’re both kind of newbies when it comes to sex toy shopping. What do you suggest we start out with?
YAY for being open to using sex toys in the bedroom and for taking the journey of popping your sex toy cherry! The most non-intimidating sex toy to start out with would be a personal massage wand with several speed settings. It’s a handheld device that plugs into the wall and can be used on any part of the body. Each of you can take turns exploring the other’s body with the pulsating vibrations to bring on arousal and desire. Leave no area untouched!
Another great sex toy for first-timers is a vibrating cock ring. Trojan and Durex have created versions of the cock ring that are sold in drug stores right next to the condoms. The vibrations from the ring bring extra stimulation to the penis and help stimulate the clitoris, not only directly but also from the inside, to bring on an orgasm more quickly and strongly.
Sex dice are also a fun beginner’s sex toy to purchase because they are cheap and help usher in variety and a bit of competition in the sexual experience. One die has a command while the other has a body part. Each partner takes turns rolling the dice and performing the actions on the dice for a foreplay session that’s left up to chance and the sex gods! If you are into kink, a beginner’s fetish bondage kit would be a perfect anniversary gift!
The kits include a satin blindfold, handcuffs and a small whip for the couple that likes to take turns in domination. There are a plethora of options on the market, and once you’ve made your first purchase you will definitely be in the market for more! You can purchase these products and more from my online adult shop at www.glamerotica101.com/shop. Don’t forget to cleanse your new toys after use with antibacterial soap or toy cleaner)
I’m starting to have feelings for my friend with benefits. We’ve thankfully managed to maintain our friendship. I don’t want to mess up what we have, but I’ve found myself wanting to spend more time with her, outside of the sack.
This is a classic case of the need for COMMUNICATION. At the beginning of your FWB relationship, you both agreed upon being friends with an open relationship. Now it’s time for you to come back to the “contract” of your relationship for discussion and compromise. Your relationship is based on a friendship with sex as a bonus, so be confident in knowing that you will have a friend no matter what. In this situation, typically, both individuals feel the same way, however, it just takes one person to step up to the plate and open up the subject of being more than just Friends with Benefits.
Professing your feelings and spending more time with this woman shouldn’t put a strain on the friendship, but strengthen it. The difference from the FWB relationship to now catching feelings is having a deeper connection and respect for the woman, and no woman is going to turn down a man’s affections especially if she feels he is sincere and she already has a history with him. Be bold and tell her how you feel before the next man snatches her up! Chances are she has been waiting on this moment.
My wife insists that having her feet in the air gives her better orgasms, because of the blood rushing into her body. Do you think she’s right?
Answer: As weird as it may sound, your wife is actually correct! During the arousal state, blood flow increases to the genitals causing them to become more sensitive. When the legs are in the air, stress is taken off of the pelvis and allows more blood to flow to the area making all of her lady parts ultra-sensitive to the touch. Your wife has found the magic in reaching her orgasm so kudos to her! The average woman doesn’t have such a clear road map to experiencing an orgasm, so keep those legs in the air and keep making her feel amazing!
Tyomi Morgan is the founder and head writer of the sex education blog, Glamerotica101. You can keep up with Tyomi on Glamerotica101.com and Twitter @GlamazonTyomi.
